Sis, Save Yourself: The Art of Taking Off the Cape
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By: Jamila Gomez
Black women have long been the backbone of their communities, workplaces, and families. They’ve been leaders, nurturers, and supporters, often juggling countless responsibilities while dealing with systemic inequalities and personal struggles. Yet, in their dedication to helping others, Black women frequently place their own needs on the back burner. This tendency to prioritize others’ well-being above their own can come at a significant cost to their mental, emotional, and physical health. Now, more than ever, it’s crucial for Black women to start putting themselves first, embracing self-care, and prioritizing their personal growth and happiness.
For generations, Black women have been conditioned to be “strong” and resilient, qualities often celebrated and admired. However, this “superwoman” archetype, while empowering in some contexts, can also be damaging. It often leads to an unspoken expectation that Black women should handle everything without breaking down. This stereotype places undue pressure on Black women to be the caretakers, the reliable ones, and the problem solvers for everyone else. But constantly carrying this weight can lead to burnout, anxiety, depression, and other health issues.
Putting oneself first does not mean abandoning loved ones or responsibilities. Rather, it means recognizing that personal well-being is essential to be fully present for others. Black women must remember that self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary. When they prioritize their health and happiness, they can engage more meaningfully and sustainably in their relationships and communities.
To begin prioritizing themselves, Black women can establish boundaries. Saying “no” when necessary, delegating responsibilities, and setting limits on their time and energy are critical first steps. They should embrace the idea that their needs are just as important as those they support. Seeking therapy, practicing mindfulness, dedicating time to hobbies, and resting are all valuable practices that can contribute to a healthier, more balanced life.
Another vital aspect of putting oneself first is understanding that vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s okay to ask for help, to lean on others, and to admit when things get overwhelming. The myth of having to “do it all” alone can be damaging, leading to isolation and internalized stress. Instead, connecting with supportive communities, friends, and professionals can provide a safe space to share challenges and find encouragement.
Ultimately, prioritizing oneself is an act of self-love and respect. Black women deserve the same attention, care, and compassion they often extend to others. By choosing to put themselves first, they are not only taking a stand for their health but also setting a powerful example for others to value themselves unapologetically.
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